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Hey there fellow bloggers. My son Aidan always likes to play
“Would you rather”, but I am going to change it up and say, “Could you
ever…?” Could you ever imagine not
having control over your body, your mind, or your words? Being a teacher, I get to witness all
different kinds of people. We are all born with things that are easier for us
to do than they are for other people. I decorate cakes, and it’s probably
easier for me than for others. Some
of my students were born math geniuses, and others were born to read. But what if you were born with the
difficulty to control yourself?
Can you imagine being different than the average student? Can you imagine people judging you when
it is so difficult for you to control your words, corky behavior, or physical
movements? Could you every accept people and be nice to them knowing that
others are judging that person for being different? I have witnessed this in some of my students. There are always going to be people who
are different than the average “bear”, but could you ever be one of the few who
accepted those who are different?
Just a thought.
“Could you ever…?”
Ms. Martinez
MS MARTINEZ IS GREAT YAY.
ReplyDeletebut this is a topic i'm glad was brought up because i find myself thinking about closely the same things. some people don't understand the differences in others, and how some may have more difficulty with other subjects than others. people will ALWAYS be judging each other, no matter what. of course, you have the choice to deal with or, or do something about it, but the choice is all yours. no matter how good of a person someone will be, there will always be one person there to bring them down based on the way that person sees the other as.
I think choosing not to judge someone isn't something that actually comes natural to humanity, I think we as people love feeling suppieror and will go to any means nesecasry to fell suppieror, it is unfortunate and awful in all sorts of ways but I don't think they isn't any hope. I think class's like creative writing where all diffent people, colors, ethnicity, religions, and social statusues come together and feel like there is a safe place to express they're fellings and thoughts really proves that we have the capacity for compassion and empathy twords others. I think only the people who know how to be compassionate are responsible forr educating generations of the future to be more accepting of others. Only education can beat ignorance, and the wise (us) only have the power to educate
ReplyDeleteForgive typos on muh phone and in a hurry but felt the need to respond!
DeleteFor some people it takes empathy to not judge others negatively for their inability to control their body (or any situation in general.) It took experience as both the bully and the bullied for me in junior high to truly understand the situations at hand. Like someone once said, "A smart person will learn from their own mistakes, but an even smarter person will learn from the mistakes of others." That being said, I do not believe I would judge another for their inability to control their body, however I cannot vouch for my future mindset. It all boils down to understanding, and some people cannot grasp understanding until they have been exposed into circumstances where they must.
ReplyDeleteOn a side note I have never met you but I think this is a thought-provoking blog post and if you ever see this comment, well...nice to meet you.
If I wasn't in kontrol (Again, I know that's spelled wrong, but the right key isn't working. So I'm using "k" instead of it.) I don't know what I'd do. Aktually, erase that. I know what would happen. I'd go insane. I wouldn't be as AWESOME as I am right now. I know at times I think my parents kontrol me, but, in reality, I'm in kontrol of me. If I don't do my homework, that's on me. Here's my question: If I wasn't in kontrol of me, would I be in kontrol of somebody else?
ReplyDeleteThe good news now is my "C" key works again. I have no idea what happened with it. But it's fixed now.
DeleteThis post is such an interesting one that brings up several topics. I think, personally, the thought of not having control over something in your life is one of the scariest things. I know these aspects of life are inevitable and whatnot but it's terrifying to think of. Therefore, I think it is so important to learn not to critique someone on that which they can not control. Not always an easy task, nor am I claiming to be perfect by any means but I do agree with Amber that empathy is such an important key in understanding and accepting differences in others.
ReplyDeleteImagining not being able to control something in my life seems in real to me. Though if I had to live like that I know I wouldn't want anyone saying rude/hurtful things to me because of something that I simply have no control over. It's almost as if someone made fun of someone because of their height. It's not something they have a choice about so why even comment on it. Why say anything about their choices. If you don't agree with them it's ok. That doesn't mean you have to tell them you just have to respect them.
ReplyDeleteNot having control over your life is one of the most frightening topics I can think of, because even though you'd hope that people would be kind enough to empathize, they'd just discriminate what they don't understand. I've been thinking abut this a lot lately: why people do the things they do to each other, how we could even think negatively about someone just because they're different in some way, how we could oppress them and beat them and shun them and burn them and throw them in death camps, because they like the same sex or they're black or they're Jewish and still call ourselves human. What are our differences but attributes to our personality, characteristics that make us individual? (Sorry, I'm reading Night.)
ReplyDeleteI don't think I could discriminate other people for not being able to control what they do or think or simply are, because I won't be that type of person. It's not who I am or who I want to be. My morals are way above that. If I was the one that wasn't in control, I'd be deathly terrified of what people thought of me, of what other people were saying/doing/thinking about me that I couldn't control. I don't think I could do it, honestly, and I wish I was the type of person that could, but I guess that's not me either.
Can I tell you how many times i thought this too myself? No. Can i tell you if i ever came to a conclusion? also no. But could i ever? I never have an answer, but all i can do is remind myself this is someones reality, people always deal with crap like this and only get treated even worse by other people. When someone has an illness, something that puts them, off, how do you want to be viewed as? another face in the crowd laughing, or a best friend, a silver lining, a real human being?
ReplyDeleteIt makes me feel great that there are students who think like you : )
DeletePersonally, I love the idea to control the uncontrollable. control yourself, and your thoughts in the sense of respecting everyone. respect your enemies, your loved ones, strangers. no matter anyone's control over their bodies, or anything for that matter, what's important is to remember to control our empathy, as previously stated. Empathy is such a key role in the development of relationships, and I think sometimes we forget that it doesn't always come naturally. We need to be passionate enough about life and kindness to want to have empathy towards everyone, no matter who, or how they are
ReplyDeleteI don't think that I could ever not have control of any part of myself. I would like to be a friend to those who do not have control of themselves for a reason, but it takes courage. I know that I am not good at things and people accept me for my difficulties in things that I am not good at and that is what makes them a great friend. I would love to be a great friend and see past the difficulties that they cannot control and accept them for who they really are and what they are capable of doing because everyone can have their achievements and failures. A great friend will stand up for them and help them be the best they can be, even with their difficulties.
ReplyDeleteI honestly would be a little scared of not having control over myself, not terrified, just surprised. I have met a whole lot of people with this problem, and personally, they were some of the most interesting people I had ever met. They tired controlling their behavior and actions, but you could tell it was difficult, to me it didn't matter, they're still human beings and I don't think they're really that different from 'normal' people. In all reality however, who doesn't have that controlling problem from time to time? It's natural to not have control over your body, even if you try really hard. I wouldn't bully anyone with that problem, it's almost natural for them.
ReplyDeleteI feel like having control over ourselves is the only thing that we really have control over. We don't have control over what others say, do, or think about us, but we do control how we react to this fact. That being said, I don't think I don't think i could bear a life where my thoughts and actions aren't my own. It seems like a very bleak existence, to be a puppet to one's instincts and urges.
ReplyDeleteI think that if not being able to control your own body would be torture. Your actions and thought are everything. Having a life without being able to control wouldn't be a life I'd want to live.
ReplyDeleteI think that everyone wants control over everything in our lives. We want to feel secure and comfortable in everyday surroundings. If that means judging people or making others feel bad about themselves to fit in, then that's what people do. We have a kill or be killed mindset. A survival instinct. We do what we think we have to in order to fit in. We are not empathetic. I'm not saying there aren't any empathetic people, just very few. Empathy or kindness gets in the way of having control.
ReplyDeleteWe really would like to think that we have control over our lives. We think our choices and our actions matter but that is the one thing we have control over.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very strange question to answer. With my own life, there's a certain lack of control I've found in myself, but at the same time, I am the only person who can really dictate where I go from here. Like, I've already grown aware of what I have no control over so from here on out, I have to make my own decisions. The amount of control we have is really varied depending on our situation.
ReplyDeleteit's scary to think about not being able to control things like that. &I I think many people like to think that they would accept someone who is different, but I think saying that & doing that are two different things. im not saying that were bad people, but I think a lot of people judge others without really noticing it.
ReplyDeleteIf I did not have control of my body, I would lose my mind. The thought of being a puppet is maddening. I would rather die than practically be a vegetable. The only thing I would actually have left would be my thoughts, but even then it wouldn't matter.
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