Thursday, February 26, 2015
Friendships
Throughout your life you are going to have many friends. You will have school friends, work friends, your let's go out and do something friends, your stay inside and watch a movie friends. You will have friends that turn their back on you and ones that stay by your side through the toughest times. These are the friends that you would consider your best friends. So my question is, how do you know whether someone is your best friend or not? Is there signs that show if someone is going to become a back stabber? Does someone changing and growing apart from you mean that they were never a true friend? Basically just leave your opinions on the topic. You can answer the questions or just give your opinion on anything related to friendships! One question I would like answered though is if you do think you have found your life long best friend, (you may not have yet!) what moment made you realize that they will never let you down?
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I think most friendships are superficial, as humans we seek attention and social acceptence so we build these "friends" to fill that roll but I believe in order to know that you have a "best friend" you have to first go through some sort of trial with that person, they're not any bonds stronger then ones formed through adversity, in my opinion of course.
ReplyDeleteThis is a tougher one to answer to because to me, things just sorta happen. There isn't really anyway of telling whether someone is your friend or your "friend." I honestly think the best way for me to relate to this is simply by basing this sort of thing on events in my life. Here's how I'm going to answer this one: explaining my life on facebook in my role play group. It's a group of people that have fallen in love with the art of professional wrestling and role play and have combined the two. That's why most of my facebook friends are people I probably wont ever meet. But in the group, you kinda have to always keep your allies in check. You don't know who you can and can't trust. And sometimes even when you DO trust someone, they'll turn on you. Luckily, seeing that I play The Miz in the group, I don't have a long list of friends. Most people hate me for 1 of 2 reasons. 1.) Because not a lot of people like my gimmick. Or 2.) I';ve done something in the group to make them dislike me. So my list of friends in the group is a select few. But as far as best friends go, you can only have 1 best friend. That's what makes this challenging. Like in my group, even some people who I seriously thought were people that would never turn on me, turned on me at one point. There are litterally only 3 people who have not and I don't think ever will turn on me. When things like that happen in reality, you don't look to that person as a friend, you look at them as family. It kinda just depends on the amount of trust 2 people have invested in another that qualify people as friends. But it has also been said that friendships are "temporary" relationships. It's just one of the mysteries of the human mind I guess. I know I'm rambling on about this, but this is seriously a tough one to answer to. I don't know if any of my friends just look at me as a pawn or an actual friends. You can ask people if they're your friends, but who's to known if they're telling the truth or not? I give up on explaining this. I'm kind of just running my mouth just to heart myself talk at this point.
ReplyDeleteI've typed out 4 different responses to this, and have deleted all of them because I can't figure out what I'm trying to say. I will, however, answer one part. If a past best friend goes against you, it doesn't mean that they were never a true friend. I think that they just changed. Although it does suck, it happens.
ReplyDeleteFriendships, like any relationship, are built on the balance between each other's needs. Your BEST friend or plural is when you have acquired that almost perfect balance, meaning they give you what you need and you do the same, whether we like to admit it or not. It can be as simple as "I needed a friend who would listen to what I had to say without me even having to say it" or "their spontaneous nature has inspired me and helps me step outside of my comfort zone." In a sense, your best friend has qualities you see in yourself that you like, and you reach that higher level of common ground. But, your best friend also sheds light of other qualities you may not have seen or paid attention to before. In short, your best friend is the ultimate, the ONE above all the others, for either one single reason or many reasons. I think it doesn't matter too much the reasons but rather the presence of the person you have chosen as your #1, your buddy bud. Your best friend is there for you when you need them, bottom line. They are your other half. And like any human, you WILL change in this life, and you might change so much that you and your best friend will no longer desire or need the same balance that you once had. Your views in life may change and your beliefs and values, and this is the hard part because you must be ripped a part of your soul and pushed back into the world to find another out there who can fit this puzzle piece. This is why we have many other friends that are the "let's go out tonight" or "let's watch a movie" kind. We specifically keep them more distant so that we may fall back into their arms and learn how to handle the so-to-speak break up. They keep things level for us until we find our balance again. The symbiotic affinity of friendships is the most attractive form of use and the most commonly overlooked until the balancing beam we idolize is off put by even the smallest of reasons, and we realize the power of presence.
ReplyDeleteAre there good and bad signs? Absolutely. How do you know! A combination of gut instinct and lessons learned from past mistakes. No one is perfect. We're all flawed, so we're all going to mess up. The key component, for me, when it comes to friendships is the willingness to see the tough times through and grow to be better. I can give grace for anything, and for the most part my longest, most important friendships can be sustained with forgiveness and growth.
ReplyDeleteAs far as me personally (SAPPY ALERT), I knew my best friend when I decided that I wanted to ask her to marry me. Case closed on that one.
I have had many friends that have turn around and stabbed me in the back, but there are two people that I don't think i could ever live without. Their names are Becca who i have been friends with for almost 4 years now, and Sam who i have known for about 8 years now. Without them I wouldn't be the same person I am today. To me there are no signs but to someone else there might be.
ReplyDeleteI have had many friends that have turn around and stabbed me in the back, but there are two people that I don't think i could ever live without. Their names are Becca who i have been friends with for almost 4 years now, and Sam who i have known for about 8 years now. Without them I wouldn't be the same person I am today. To me there are no signs but to someone else there might be.
ReplyDeleteI think my moment of realization was when I got into one of the biggest fights I've ever had with a friend. We were at each others throats and there didn't seem to be any kind of agreeing resolution. However, after our nonstop fighting for hours on end, we both realized how we had been acting and treating each other. Even though we never did meet eye to eye on the argument, we both apologized and looked past our opinions. That exact moment was when I knew that I had a lifelong best friend already close to my side.
ReplyDeleteThe way I look at friendships is how I look at most things in life; they are in a constant state of change. This made me reflect on my friendships throughout my life. I have realized that I only have one friend that has been a lifelong friend. He is not, however, my best friend. I know that I can always rely on him when I need someone, but he is not someone I always call to hang out. I think that is the best thing about long-time friendships...the ability to go a while without talking and know that you are still friends. As far as best friends go I have had many and they come and go. This is not necessarily a bad thing. We drift apart due to different interests and sometimes it is because you realize they were not good friends all along. This realization is a hard but necessary evil.
ReplyDeleteWow. This is beautiful and I agree one-hundred percent. Man... This is so good.
DeleteA best friend is someone who is not affected by distance and time apart. They are someone who will always be there for you even if it might not be convenient for them.
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ReplyDeletePeople are in constant change, but sometimes people go through those changes together. Those people could be your life-long friends. I know of one friend I've known for a long time and we have grown so much but we still are great friends and complementing personalities. On the contrary, I have a friend I have known even longer, yet we have changed so much and no longer have that close bond that makes them your "best friend".
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